We need to teach our kids about everything, sometimes the most difficult one in the simplest form. The same happens to me.
Last night my son ask How come dada is a husband and I am a son, we both are boys🤔
Me: I marry him so he is my husband one day you will get married so you become a husband.
My son: Whom I am going to marry?
Me: A girl, whom you like, love. She loves you, care for you.
My son: No I don’t want to marry, I already married with you. You are not dada’s wife you are my wife.
I feel happy but then I did something which he is not going to forgive me in the future. I make a video of all this conversation and decided that whenever he will come to me with his would-be then I will show him this video and deny his marriage saying you are already married😂
If something happens with you, do share. Keep enjoying life😊😊
I live in the apartment no trees around. Nowadays, it’s hard to see birds in the nest and impossible for my kid to see any bird in the nest. For him, birds fly or live in cages 😦 . Luckily on my balcony, a bird makes the nest. My husband said, “We must stop the bird. Otherwise there will be eggs, and if eggs fall then, that hearts me” he is right. Still, I promise him to take care of the bird and my son, so birdy and my monkey don’t disturb each other. Since the bird making her nest, each day is different for me. The more I am with her, the more I feel connected. It amazes me the complete process of Motherhood, whether it’s a bird or human. It’s God’s gift 🙂 . I thought, let’s give words to that feeling.
My balcony is full of plants maybe that attract the bird. She keeps coming and sitting for hours. After three-four days, I notice that she is making a nest. What a fine architect she is. She gave proper support to the nest as it is only on one thin base and tightly tied with the iron bars and makes it safe as much as possible. In 6 to 7 days, she completes it. When I see her making the nest, getting all the soft stuff for would-be babies, I remember those days How I was preparing my baby’s nursery.
The nest is all ready, and she did not move at all. I realized that she laid eggs. She flies away for some time then comes back, she won’t go too far, whenever I reach my balcony she comes back from nowhere. I can understand her, she is going to be a mother, and for now, her only job is to take care of herself and her babies. Sometimes I see another bird with her, and that one comes only to give her food. My son called that bird a dady bird, who flies away because he goes office. During my pregnancy, my husband used to do the same thing before leaving for the office, he arranged all of my stuff in an easy-access way. He never forgets about my craving stuff and baby carrot. Human or animal, End of the day, we are parents.
Eggs are hatching, and a tiny winy cute birdy is out. That’s the most beautiful moment. My kid is so happy, all day he is shouting. Every single time when the bird is out for food, he climbs up and starts looking at the babies. Now we have names Mumma bird, a baby bird, and a dada bird. Now Mumma bird comes with food, and babies open their mouths in the air for the food. Nobody teaches them what to do, but they know, just like the first time I feed my baby, and he knows what to do. At my time, I had this question, how my newborn knows to have milk, and my doctor says, don’t worry about that. After a half-hour of delivery, I nursed my baby, and that was the most satisfying feeling. I get it there are things which we don’t need to teach.
Now my morning starts with them. They chirping early in the morning. It’s so calming, peaceful, wake up like that. I am not an early riser, but now birdies are my alarm, and without snooze, I wake up and have tea with them. Baby birds are growing too fast, and now they are big and have no space for Mumma. When the Mumma bird is not in the nest, babies try to jump. That scares me, so I can imagine how scary for the Mumma bird. I observe one thing whenever Mumma bird is out for food, she keeps chirping so the baby bird can hear her, it’s my assumption, but with that sound, at least the babies don’t try to jump. When I see the naughty baby birds, that give me a sense The moment kids start feeling independence, they start their things, and being a parent our job is to keep saying No word. So I think Mumma bird is doing the same when she is not in the nest but keeps making a sound from far away 😛.
Birds are ready to fly, and soon they will be in the sky and leave their empty nest behind with their sweet memories. I am gone miss them. I can feel what the Mumma bird will feel. I correlate myself with her, a baby born, you raised him with all your love and care, one day he flies away that’s what you teach him, but in your deep heart you want to stop that, you want to hold the moment, you wish that your love one grows slow but it never going to happen they grows fast and now ready to fly. It’s a happy moment that your loved one is now in the world on their own you taught him well, A proud Parent, and sad because now they are not with you. I have no words to explain that feeling. I can only feel it. The day you become a parent, you assuredly feel it. With this feeling, I want to enjoy every single moment with my son.
Thanks to God, he gave us such a beautiful life and such beautiful emotion. When you feel it, you realize how pure the parents and kid relation is. It’s a responsibility, and God blessed us with that. Newborn to a flying bird, every moment is precious. When your little one reaches the sky, that’s the moment you feel proud and say, We did well.
My son is 4 and half and till now I have a beautiful journey with him. The day I conceived till now I am learning, yes First time mother so every single thing is first, for each and everything I had questions, so whenever something happen during the pregnancy and after that (trust me a lot changes happen mentally and physically) I ask, some time I got answers and other time Google is my best friend. 😉
I prefer The Learning word now and then. Because I believe everyone is a learner, at any place you are, You are a learner, when you are a individual person you live your life on your terms, no matter what is right or wrong. But when you become parent then whether you like it or not you become a role model. Whatever you do, your kid follow you, So now you can’t chose what to do and what not to.(scary, for me too 😛) .
For first year of kid life(after kid you don’t have life😅) being a new parent you try to cope up and learn, there are lots of How in the first year, so you learn, Now you two are together, he knows you but you never know him, whenever you feel you know your kid and boom he did something new, so again learning, basically what I learn with this, It’s never ending, how about that, Make this learning as a fun learning.
If I need to be a role model (which I don’t like it), then let’s make some checkpoints, which gives win win situation.
I want my kid to be disciplined, but what is the meaning of that, he is about to 5 and he wants only play nothing else, he is meant for that, so what else can I expect from him. Disciplined is must and it should start around his age, so I make some ground rules like which is acceptable and which is not Like when my kid wakeup first thing brush without that you can’t come out of the room, applying this one is the hardest one because as he opens his eyes he likes to play. On the dinning table no dancing no funny business, at the time of study no naughty. And the last before sleeping brush. Other then that I say him No but all of them can be acceptable. I told you he knows me but i don’t know him, so daily me and my son have lots of discussions 😉 someday I will share too. At this age I called as discipline.
Day by day he is growing and with this pandemic he is stuck in the home and if I make home as a jail so what he will do even kid can not express them selves. We are frustrated in the home so think about him, he wants garden, play area, friends but nothing. He wants to explore. I really feel sad for kids, any how we cope up but poor kids they try to understand but they can’t. So for this I change my self, I am kind of strict mother, but since lockdown started I changed, now I focus on my kid even my family mental health ( In my previous blog I shared for kids physical health), because now we are in close environment we have everything but virtual (still my family follows lock down restrictions) So in that situation being a parents we need to teach kids two main things Survival skills and No matter what is the condition always Be Positive.
For survival skills, everybody has different scenarios according to your geographical location, like for us, my son is dust allergic, heat issues, very sensitive body, So during the corona time we avoid every single thing which triggers any of that, Preventions is Better then Cure. With that concept we are teaching him what and how he needs to avoid those triggers, yes its a lot for him but day by day he is getting used to of it. when ever he feels hot he just come to me and ask for AC or after 10/15 sneeze he ask for nebulizer (which he calls as Mask medicine 😉 ). Its good for him to understand his body at least he share with somebody else if I am not available. Scary but we need to make kids strong, yes we are always with them but they need to ready for new changes. My son he knows without mask can not go out and He is good in that, he never take out his mask, same way as we come home he direct go to washroom and wash him self and force us to do the same. Which I love it.
Other then all of the normal teaching, how to behave, how to talk, preschool learning one more thing I am trying to teach my kid is Be Positive, for him I say Be happy, and just focus on Today, learn from yesterday, Make To do list for tomorrow but live for Today. Its difficult for 4 year old to understand what I am saying, so I make an easy way, every single night I ask him what did you learn today, yesterday he told me he learn new word ‘Triumph’ and at other day he said I can make bubbles with mouth 😉 so basically I am trying to teach him the concepts of learning from the Today, Not today but yes as he grows he will understand the concept, as for the To do list same I ask him what he is going to do after waking up and he told me whatever in his mind but same as time goes on he will have the real list ( now in his To do list only one thing Playing).
5 year old kid is still a baby, he is trying to understand the world in his ways, he need physically, mental growth and if we have limited recourse and we are having job, then we need a plan how to handle this. earlier kids go to school, they have friends, by watching them a lots of things they learn by them selves, now they have parents only and who is always stopping for everything, don’t do that ,don’t touch that and a lot and all day. So they start denying, my kid says ‘Still I am doing’ and some time I lose my control, some time I let it go, but that is not good, That’s why I came up with this idea, I make check list what is allow what is not and the most important his mental health. I want to make him happy but not stubborn. So here is my checklist as per my kid
As you wakeup finish you washroom things.
On the dining table no funny business.
At the time of study no naughty things.
Brush before sleeping.
Make some rules which gives idea what is accepted and what is not, other then that let him play, where kid can learn most of things, which helps for mental health as well as physical health.
When I planed to start writing, there is all different topic in my mind, but as soon as I start, my little one came and said this words to me and then I ended up here 🙂 .
This is the most adorable words which my son says to me always, yes always. I am full time Mother and still my son says to me, can you imagine when he got chance to say that words. I can help, when I cook, when I am cleaning, when I am bathing 😉 , when I pic my phone or when ever I about to start something, after all day of playing with him and the moment I about to start he come to me and with his beautiful smile he says
Can you play with me Amma, For two minute, only for two minute please. And trust me when he says this to me, I can’t resist I immediately stop everything and start playing with him. It happens lots of time in a day but I keep enjoying this. I know he is growing fast (as I feel 😉 ) and one day he is a big boy, then I am going to miss this tiny winy cute pai.
My mother used to talk about how was I am, when I was kid. she has all my sweet memories but after started my schooling she does not have any thing, whenever i ask she has simple answer that then you become big girl. she has memories, about my schooling achievement but no more that naughty girl moment.
That is the reason I don’t want to miss my son innocent time, the time which is with me always. Yes i do remember his all big things but whenever I site alone and try to remember then the first face is this one with cute smile, naughty eyes and one simple line “Amma can you play with me only for two minute” and after saying this his next line ” And you don’t count the minute” 🙂 .
I never get this innocence again, I just want to live in the moment, i don’t want capture everything in the camera I want to capture in my eyes, in my memory. that’s the way I want to enjoy my Motherhood.
Being a mother, home maker and a women, who wants to achieve something, Some time its really difficult to manage the time, but when I look outside, there are mothers who taking care of kids, office , home everything and then I think I can do it at least I can try. I don’t want to be perfect I just want to be mother.
I always suggest to every new mother or going to mother, enjoy every single moment of motherhood it will never come again, if you miss it, then it’s gong forever. yes we are busy in our life, jobs, responsibilities but still we can get some time, the little one don’t ask for hours, they ask for some moment to laugh and play with you. so just get some time not all day only some time, sit with them and see how cute, how innocent they are, see their views for life, for world, you will be amaze or laugh but trust me my friend you will not lose any thing you will get something, something precious.
I have a lot to say, for me its never ending topic but my monkey wont allow to me, so simple get your best moment with your kid and enjoy every single moment of life.
Hello, how are you.. During this pandemic this is very vital question. I am a mother of a 4 year old and since this virus came to us, I started thinking about only one thing….. WHAT SHOULD I DO TO PROTECT MY KID.
This is the question, which is for every single parents, trust me guys when I heard about the covid virus very first time, started to see affected count on the TV, I feel helpless. please don’t laugh but yes I started to watch movies based on survival. I googled, I started to pray, I make my family for exercise. you just name it and I did that. With all of this thing I learned one thing which is most important and that is our IMMUNITY. And yes you will agree with me, you also see a lot during this pandemic.
Immunity help us to fight back with any virus whether it is corona or any thing else. when I realize that then I start working. my first goal was what to do, then how to do with my kid. My kid is extremally dust allergic and hyperactive.
I did remember one of incident where I was in the hospital for three days and my son is continuously coughing, not for a single minute he stop, that makes me miserable. So I decided I don’t want any thing like that during this pandemic, I started googled and I got something. With my kid I try and with god grace it some how work.
Today I want to share same thing, I feel I am not alone who feels that feeling. there are other kids parents who has same issue, why not , may be with this sharing they got any idea.
Let’s Get Start
1. Makes Kid Lung Strong
Yes its right, for immunity bosting first thing makes kid lung strong so he can have oxygen a lot oxygen. which is most important.
How you do that, Exercise if kid is happy to do that, if no then running, jumping games which he loves. even the simplest way is make the kid laugh. as much as he laugh, he will get strong lung. we do dance, with funny faces and we do on every Friday Now my son reminds me for that 🙂
It gives you family time/happy time /fun time, whatever you call but trust me you get a lot with that.
2. Mental health
Think about, our kid who loves to run in the park, who loves his friends and one day you just say him, now you are not allowed to go out, if you want to go out you need to wear mask, use sanitizer. That poor one denying in the same way as he used to deny for broccoli. he is thinking nothing happen my mummy will again let it go, she will come but not with angry or not with any terms. he does not know this time he needs to do that whether he likes or not he has to do. he cry, he fight back ,but in the end he accept it. Now he has no friend everything is virtual, No outdoor, all day stopping don’t do that don’t do this…. just thing about his frustration.
My little one has the same issue, What I did, first I try to understand the problem, what he wants, I know when we have office hours, we don’t have time to think about that, But try not on weekday, you can try on weekend, give them time, ask what they want, Like mine only wants to play, So I got some games which I can play and work together, When I cook I take him with me. He loves messing with flour or cutting vegetables.
Try your ways, Nothing is better than something.
3. Eat Healthy
Most difficult task in the world, kids like to eat but not healthy food, They only want to eat junk. My little one loves chips all the time, no yogurt, no vegetable, no nuts nothing. Being a parent we always want kid to be healthy but they do not want to eat healthy.
What I do my kid wants to eat chips, chocolate So I started deal with my kid and My deal is like if my kid finish yogurt and pancake then he get one chocolate. It works for me. You know your kid so you know how you make him eat.
Try google you will get all the diet chart, as per the age you can find your chart and apply.
4. Love and affection
Yes, you will think I love my kid so much, so why I need that. Of course you love your kid but when you say to him. Showing your love to your kid is important but in todays life style we don’t have time, some time I feel guilty even I am not working, I am house wife But being a house wife I have responsibilities so for that I could not make time for my kid and at the time of sleeping I feel regret. yes some of you think that how I understand the feeling of working mother so trust me guys I being there and because of my guilty I can not start working. Now I cope of with all of that guilt feeling, I used baby steps but yes it worked 🙂 .
I use this lockdown as a opportunity to connect with my kid, I make a small routine with my kid that is morning and night routine. Every morning no matter how much I am busy I wake up my kid and we play at least for half hour in the bed same way Night routine I personally make him sleep and talk and play with him. That gives him assurance that yes he can talk. during night routing some time he said those thing which I never expect from him, he shares him self.
Kid only wants love and affection, Nothing else.
How much relief when we heard this word, kid is sound sleeping and you have all your time without any disturbance, without any thing else in your mind. Is this really possible, no not at all 😦 mine is never ever like to sleep, that makes him crying frustrating.
Yes for healthy body, we need to sleep as we need to eat, exercise. Enough sleep makes body stress free. you know what if you don’t get sufficient sleep that affect your brain nervous. So sleeping is must, As usual its healthy habit and kid does not want it 😉 . they want to play, they want phone.
I use music, that is since the day he born. This is one song which becomes his habit now, when ever he listen the song he understand that this is the time for sleep. Yes it takes a lot effort to make the song as a sleepy song but I am happy I did that.
Peaceful night sleep, a little nap time is very important for kid, same as play, eat or any thing else.
Thanks for taking out little time for your little. Please do share if you have any new ideas, I love to hear that. Always open for New Learning 🙂